Saturday, November 19, 2011

Tips for Divorcing Parents

Divorce is not easy on anyone, especially children. Every divorcing family is different, but here are a few general tips to deal with the stress of divorcing from your child’s parent:

Take the high road and stop fighting. The sooner you can stop fighting with your child’s parent the sooner you can focus on your child. Fighting in front of your child is not good for anyone.

Encourage your children to visit their parent, their grandparents, and their extended family. Just because you may not want to be around your child’s parent anymore does not mean your children don’t need them in their life. Remember to keep your child’s best interest in mind.

Never disparage a parent or other adult in front of the children. Adult conflicts are for adults only.

Do not use your child as messenger. If you have communication for the other parent communicate with them directly.

Do keep things as consistent as possible. Keeping your child’s schedule and daily routines in place will help them with other changes.

Do not let your child think the divorce is their fault. Children of divorcing parents will have their own stress, they do not need to additional stress of feeling they are at fault for your divorce.

Georgia recognizes the importance of focusing on the children. Under Georgia law, both parents of children under the age of 18 years old in a divorce are required to attend a parenting seminar. Uniform Superior Court Rule 24.8. The divorcing parent’s seminar “focuses on the developmental needs of children, with emphasis on fostering the child’s emotional health during periods of stress.”  Gwinnett Courts Parenting Seminar.

Information on the Walton County Parenting Class can be found here: Alcovy Circuit Parenting Class.

See our website at Bechtold-Law Child Custody for more information on child custody and divorce.

Contact our office at 770.466.2700 or to schedule your free initial consultation.